I quit my job, with nothing to go to.

Do you know what’s scary? You know that paralysis of fear that you feel right before the drop of a rollercoaster? Or the gut wrenching anxiety when you walk into a hospital? That moment of desperation when you swerve quickly to avoid a fatal collision? We each have our own definitions of fear. For me, losing your job is scary, but what’s worse is staying in your job.

Two weeks ago, I quit my job. What I do is not impressive, and it’s not particularly well paid. In fact, it is minimum wage and it has made me miserable every day for the last 8 months. The sensible thing to do would be to line another job up before quitting, but there’s a moment of content peacefulness that comes when you reach your limit. I knew that enough was enough, and had I not done it then I am not sure I ever would have. Continue reading

525,600 minutes: A Goldilocks year in review.

Note: I don’t often do personal posts, but as the year ends I think it’s important to show growth. xo

2013: What happened?

The New Year
I started off this year at the top of the Empire State Building. The rest of the year was never going to compare to the harsh whips of wind against my face at the top of one of the most inspirational buildings in the world. It’s the only building I can sketch from memory, and the only thing I draw from instinct. I had been to New York twice already, but this would be my last in a while and I sat in an accepting silence in that mustard yellow taxi back to JFK. Sometimes great loves have to stand still, until real life slows down. The day I came home and hit pause on my love for New York, I hit the start button on my relationship with Rhys. Continue reading

Grown Up Christmas List

We’re seeing a lot of gift buying blogs, and a lot of bloggers’ Christmas lists at the moment. What is it that we really want though? Most shopping bags aren’t filled to the brim with fulfilled promises of eager twenty-somethings, so what would we ask for, if we really could?
Grown Up Christmas List
 
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1. Peace of mind
We wish we knew what it was like not to worry. Being an adult means brand new problems everyday, it’s a magical time for all involved.

2. Time off
Most of us won’t get a lot of time off throughout the year, especially during the festive season. This is the holy grail for everyone I know.

3. An open door
Most graduates have worked solidly to try and see their ambitions manifest into reality. The others have settled into jobs they would rather not have and that’s okay too, as long as they feel the contentment we wish we could feel, too. As someone who has worked harder than I ever thought I’d need to after the sober realization that I was doomed to be stuck in a bar, I’d like an opportunity in my stocking. Santa, can you hear me? It could be worse, I could ask you to pay off my overdraft. Now there’s a hefty request for you. Continue reading

The importance of living a glittery life.

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The winter blues are something that I don’t suffer from. I love the dark nights, vamped up nail polish and an excuse for more eyeliner. I also love Christmas, and ribbon curling. What I do suffer from, are graduate blues. I imagine it feels like what winter feels like for those devoted to the warmer months. It must feel endlessly hollow, and excruciatingly dull.

In times of crisis, I turn to things that make me feel myself again. A few years ago, my Twitter bio read “I like to sparkle”. I was reminded of this by my old housemate while at university in Swansea and it’s something I try not to forget. We live in ordinary circumstances, we are ordinary people with ordinary lives, but we need the belief that we can be extraordinary. Otherwise, why did we waste our money on tuition fees?

A recent article featured in The Guardian reported that half of recent UK graduates are working in non graduate jobs, demonstrating the battle that young people have to secure entry level employment. More of us are settling for low income jobs just to be in employment, and our reputations will suffer if we do this for too long. We will be the generation that couldn’t.

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The art of getting your own way.

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We would all like to think that we always get what we want. Unfortunately, the existence of other people makes this a tricky conundrum. We probably all have different methods and a variety of schemes to be able to get our own way from any situation, but here are the ones I find to be the most effective.

In your relationship
There are two kinds of getting your own way in a relationship, the first is how to watch Gossip Girl everyday and make him watch it too. This one is glorious, all you have to do is kick up enough of a fuss and he will give in. Basically, you need to act like you are 6 years old. Men will do anything for an easy and happy life. If they think they are disrupting their own happiness, they will give in. It’s a lot easier for him to agree and say “Yes, I do love Chuck Bass’ purple bow tie.” than to insist we watch something I don’t care about.What I learned about getting my own way in terms of things that don’t matter, is to simply be as annoying as possible. Women have to sacrifice enough for men, the least Rhys can do is bring me some Party Rings home to have while I gaze lovingly at him (him being Chuck Bass, obviously). Continue reading

Rules of a Blogger and things I learned this week – Sit quietly, agree politely.

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Write things people agree with, is this what we should be doing? Writers have always wanted to write what they thought as truth, provoking reaction and debate among their audience. They also write what they know, sometimes in good jest and sometimes not. When it comes to bloggers, they can write about their own lives, their opinions, and even their dinner although I have never seen the temptation to do so as I live a life dominated by cheese sandwiches. It is a blog, not a newspaper so it must be understood that we have different rules.

We adapt to our medium, and we write what we think is best for it. The best way to be noticed, is to write something people may not agree with. But what happens when you have to take back what you said? The integrity of the written word becomes compromised. You can’t retract something if it wasn’t false information, so why should you do it because someone took it too far? If we write something then have to remove it, we also risk looking like a coward. Dang nabbit.

Most writers, reporters and journalists must adhere to a strict code of conduct, and there are lines that cannot be crossed for very obvious reasons. It includes such delightful consequences such as legal action and unemployment if we discuss too much. I don’t know about you but I can’t afford the legal fees as I’m not a natural blonde and I really need my roots done. Continue reading

Pick me, but I won’t work for free: The expectation of free content.

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Why should you do something for free if you’re good at it? But why shouldn’t you if its all you want to do? Because you have bills to pay and a TV license fee you’re currently pretending is non existent. There’s also this thing called starvation you might want to avoid.

It is a common misconception and assumption that graduates are prepared to (and should do) anything for free, as long as it helps them in the long run. We buy into this with a peppy, pro active and somewhat whimsical attitude. It will look good to employers, we say. A year following my graduation, I can tell you that you should never do anything for free. During your studies, yes. But after you have your degree? No, you’ve done the hard work. Do it for yourself and blog or contribute because you want to, but don’t let someone else gain from what you have done for nothing. Unless it’s The New York Times, there’s always an exception. Continue reading