Relationship Obstacle #2: Working Together – Bar Staff Edition

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“If Barack Obama can do it, why can’t I?” – Rhys Cronin (Bar Staff, Boyfriend)

Couples in the workplace are a common occurrence, and the issues that are tied to the situation are even more common. It is less of a problem if you aren’t put to work the same times, the normality of relationship routine continues with ‘How was your day?’ However, relationship boundaries are tested when working the same hours, depending on the industry you’ve both chosen (or are just stuck in).

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Relationship Obstacle #1: You

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Yes, you. You’re your own worst enemy. Hands up if you know this is true. Now that’s out of the way, we can all have coordinating t-shirts. Mine will say ‘Slightly neurotic but mostly okay’. I personally think it’s charming.

It’s true when people say you have to be comfortable alone before you can be comfortable with someone else. But even the comfiest people fight the most raging of insecurities, nobody wants to lose something that took so long to find.

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What Girls Do When They Get a Flat Tyre.

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Disclaimer: I’m not saying all girls do this. Some of you could probably change tyres, fit exhausts, and other things I don’t know how to do. But this is what happens to me.

1. Is it my car making that sound? Surely not.
2. Maybe that is my car.
3. What’s with the sudden bumps? Stupid potholes, why do I even pay the friggin’ road tax?
4. Oh shit, the tyres. Maybe I can make it home. Maybe not.
5. Hmm. This is interesting. There appears to be a puncture of some sort.
6. Where would one find the spare tyre?
8. Oh. There it is. What an ingenious invention.
9. Now how to put it on.
10. Daddy please?

This happened last time I got a flat in the Summer, and probably what will happen in the future. Next time I’ll pay attention when someone changes my tyre. Also when someone changes the bulb in my headlight, funnily enough the local police aren’t very fond of drivers who have a light out at night. My bad, Officer. I’ll give you a cookie if you let me go without scolding me with your law abiding ways? Wait, bribery is an offence. Never mind then, consider me scolded.

Like Wildfire: Why do we gossip so much?

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I will admit now, I love gossip. Now it’s your turn, admit you love it. Now address why you do it.

We’ve grown up in a generation where gossip has become more important than ever. It keeps web traffic alive on TMZ, it put bloggers like Perez Hilton on our radar, and it started shows like Gossip Girl, casting a spotlight on our obsessions with each other’s lives. More importantly, our obsessions with seeing people we love and equally the people we hate, fall off the pedestal we’ve built for them. Continue reading

Places I Like to Hide: Coffee Barker

I’ve battled with myself over whether to blog about my favourite local places, but after quietly stewing on it for a few days I decided to do it- for the benefit of all you lovely people, obviously. I’ll be sharing my Cardiff secret hideaways with you as and when I find them.

After years of over exposure to Starbucks and Costa, and as loyal as I am to Starbucks and their red cups during the biting months of winter- the obvious draw back is that chain coffee shops lack the charm of locally established brews, along with the hefty price tag of what is actually an average tasting coffee.

Coffee Barker lies in the Castle Arcade of the City Centre, and I was brought to this coffee shop about a year ago with a friend. When I started working in the city in October there were few places I could go for a moment of reflection without the hustle of the city’s sometimes boisterous inhabitants, and I returned here for coffee. It is rarely empty, so choose your timing wisely.

With exposed brickwork décor and a delicately chosen pick and mix of plush leather seats, it incorporates the quiet charm of the arcade with the sophisticated edge of a corner coffee shop one might find in New York City. The exterior is adorned with quaint tables and chairs accompanied by homely tartan blankets, and the inside boasts a variety of lunch choices and sugary treats. Next on my Barker Bucket List is the Cherry Tiffin.

Coffee Barker has already established itself as a popular coffee shop in Cardiff City Centre, but I found that although it seemed as though every time I was there it was busy, that hardly anybody in my social circle knew about it. Both a blessing and a curse, as I can hide there when the world becomes to much- but a curse as I feel it would be a cardinal sin to not introduce everyone I know to this staple cafe. Letting you in on my little secret means I’ll no longer be able to avoid you all, but there is no mood that cannot be solved by the warmth of a hot chocolate from this place. So a top tip, if you’ve recently annoyed me and find me in there, buy me a muffin or I’ll bite you.

Going to Coffee Barker is like going home. You don’t need to talk to anybody, you don’t feel the pressure to be anything, you just need to be there.

Side note: Enjoy a White Hot Chocolate from Coffee Barker, but don’t forget who sent you there- I’ll accept flattery as gratitude.